Little children,
by nature, are fearless creatures. They are not afraid to swing on the
monkey bars or just talk to another boy or girl who just happened to be
there. But as they grow up and assimilate in society, they lose that
sense of fearlessness. They start believing in the crowd instead of
their true selves. There are many ways that this child in us can get
lost. Severe trauma, heartbreak, rejection, hardship, abuse, neglect,
domination are some of the reasons we lose our sense of security and we
start to doubt our sense of judgement. As a consequence, we start
separating ourselves. We act like strangers in this world, while
everybody else seems like they are on the same page. That's what we
perceive. We start finding it hard to connect internally and outwardly,
and then many of us find ourselves trying hard to fit in, looking for
that one person who will love us -- as if it were our only salvation.
As
adults, we start to look for reasons why we cannot assimilate. Is it
because of the color of my skin? Is it my accent? Is it my height? Is
it the way I speak? Is it the way I dress? Is it the kind of job I
have? Is it the size of my house? Is it the kind of car I drive? Is
it my culture? Is it my education? Is it how much money I have or
don't have? Is it about what I want to do?
My job as a life coach is to help you find that lost child, which I call the Self. You can go back internally and work little by little to recover your equilibrium and bearing and give life to this inner Self again...the Self that has no color or shape. This Self is your source of dignity and pride. It exists inside you and is your connection to your Source and is Love. This is the Self that knows what flavor of ice-cream you love the best!
